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Brotherhood of Gentlemen Gathering

This Monday, the Brotherhood of Gentlemen gather once again. The evening’s topic is Time Management. This one is a “special request” topic as two of our group are currently struggling with keeping up with mounting commitments and are looking for helpful tips. Part of the answer, of course, is just knowing how to say “ [...]

Teach Our Daughters – and Sons

  We need to teach our daughters to distinguish between: a man who flatters her and a man who compliments her, a man who spends money on her and a man who invests in her, a man who views her as property and a man who views her properly, a man who lusts after her and a man who loves her, a man who believes he’s a gift to women and [...]

Gun Ownership and The Southern Gentle...

I received the following email, and realized that it may be of interest to others: I am a recent arrival to Virginia and I am much taken with the state. However I do not carry or own a firearm. Is it a must for a Southern Gentleman to possess a gun? JV   The answer is an emphatic “No – absolutely not.” Gun ownership is [...]

Paying Attention to Posture

I find myself having to regularly focus on maintaining good posture. It does not come naturally for me – I have to remain conscious of the need to sit and stand up straight. I could use the excuse that my physical height (I am 6’6″ tall) requires more effort to maintain good posture, but that is just an excuse. A Southern ge [...]

Dress, Grooming, and The Effect on At...

  It seems that shorts, a T-shirt, and “flip flops” are now considered appropriate wear at just about any public place. How did we, as a society, get to this point? When did “being comfortable” become more important than self respect and respect for others? Our society seems to have lost what was once common know [...]

Types of Southern Culture

  Southern culture today has been so diluted that it is becoming harder and harder to observe. The vast majority of the people living in The South today have adopted the “Network TV Culture” – whatever they see on TV is what they imitate, and that becomes their culture. There are, however, some who still maintain a str [...]

Career Decisions – What the Sou...

Amazon seems to be the poster child for the direction that business is heading – innovative, efficient, and ridiculously profitable. The entrepreneur magazines paint it as the model others should be following, and for the employment-minded, the kind of place that every highly-motivated Gen-Xer should strive for. Amazon is also exactly w [...]

Shaping A Culture

Photo credit: source unknownMany of us uphold the culture of the Old South as our ideal. We draw on the lives of men like Robert E. Lee and Thomas “Stonewall” Jackson to understand what that culture was like. We look at contemporary writing, at the art and the architecture, at the politics, and at whatever else we can find to lear [...]

VMI’s Code of Honor

From a case presented before the United States Supreme Court, we see the Code of Honor of VMI – the Virginia Military Institute. It would be hard to come up with a better guide for being a gentleman. UNITED STATES v. VIRGINIA et al., ___ U.S. ___ (1996) UNITED STATES v. VIRGINIA et al. Certiorari to the United States Court of Appeals fo [...]

The Vanishing Gentleman

Here’s an article from “The Independent” Volume 86, published 1916. The article was written by Louise Collier Willcox of Norfolk, Virginia. It gives an insightful look at what a gentleman was in the early 1900’s, and also reveals what type of men had become the norm and taken hold post reconstruction. It is an insightful document into what ch [...]